a little thing we call ego.

Ego is a powerful and deeply misunderstood force. In past of my life I’ve learned a lot, this is something that I’m in a way process of learning too.

It shapes our relationships, fuels conflicts, and influences every aspect of our lives, like dude.. literaly everything.

Now imagine this, a child living a happy life, full of innocence and love, only to be told one day by her parents that..

she is replaceable,

that she is no different from the “silly neighbor,”

and that, in essence, she is “nothing.”

That moment shatters her heart because it doesn’t just hurt her feelings — it strikes at the very core of her sense of self, her ego.

The pain of such an experience is not merely emotional; it is the destruction of her belief in who she is.

This is one way we come to understand the fragility and power of ego.

It’s not just about self-love, but about what we perceive as our identity — something that can feel so personal yet is largely constructed from external influences.

The ego is not a unified entity.. it is a collection of many separate elements — our body, our thoughts, our societal roles.

The body itself is not a single thing, but a composite of organs, blood, bones, and nerves.

Our thoughts are shaped by social conditioning, molded by family, culture, and society. Together, these form what we call the “ego,” but it is without essence, without a true core.

Much of the ego operates in the unconscious, outside of our awareness, and it profoundly influences the way we think, feel, and behave.

Most of our conflicts, internal and external, arise from this fragile construct we call ego. When we engage in arguments, defend our opinions, or seek validation, we are often fighting not for truth, but for our ego to be recognized and affirmed.

We want our identity to be acknowledged, our existence to be validated. This is why, even in the realm of communication, there is a theory called identity theory, which revolves around the ego.

Every word we say, every opinion we hold…

I am this, and I must be heard.

The ego is not just personal — it is universal. Even in theology, we see ego at work. Religions often describe God as the ultimate decider of who goes to heaven and hell, a reflection of ultimate control and judgment.

This, too, can be interpreted as an egoic function — a cosmic desire to have power, to decide the fate of others.

In this sense, ego is everywhere,

from our smallest interactions to our deepest spiritual questions.

But here’s the thing..

ego is both our greatest creation and our greatest illusion.

From a Buddhist perspective, ego is the root of all suffering.

The moment we begin to view the world through the lens of “I,” we begin to suffer.

Ego sees the world only through the filter of personal interest.

It drives us toward ambition, desire, and greed, all of which are inherently insatiable.

We chase after validation, status, and possessions, believing that they will satisfy us, yet they never truly do.

Why? Because the ego, in its very essence, is an illusion — it doesn’t really exist.

When we understand that the ego is nothing but an illusion, our perspective on life changes entirely.

Thoughts and emotions — what we often identify with so strongly — are also without essence. They come and go like smoke, ephemeral and empty at their core.

The problem arises when we believe that our thoughts and emotions are the absolute truth, when in fact, they are fleeting, illusory experiences. By recognizing this, we stop allowing them to control us, and the heaviness of life starts to lift.

When we believe in the reality of our ego, we make every problem feel personal, every obstacle insurmountable.

We become trapped in our own suffering, unable to let go of the need for recognition, approval, and success.

But if we realize that our ego, thoughts, and emotions are not solid truths but passing visitors, life becomes lighter. Suffering no longer clings to us with the same intensity. We begin to see that pain, fear, and frustration are temporary — like guests who come and go.

When this is understood, inner peace naturally follows. Life becomes more relaxed, not in a lazy or indifferent way, but in a calm, centered way.

The ego no longer dictates our every move.

We are no longer slaves to the need for validation or recognition.

This realization is the key to world peace, something far deeper than any political dialogue or global policy could ever achieve.

When people are no longer driven by ego, when they recognize that their identity is an illusion, true inner peace — and by extension, global peace — can flourish.

The key lies in ego-awareness.

Most of the time, we are fighting for our ego to be acknowledged.

In our conversations, our relationships, our ambitions, we are constantly seeking recognition for this fragile, constructed self.

But when we realize that the ego doesn’t exist, that it’s merely a collection of thoughts and societal conditioning, we free ourselves from its grip.

And in that freedom, we find the potential for profound peace — within ourselves and with others.

The moment we let go of the ego is the moment we open ourselves to the possibility of living without suffering, of seeing the world not through the narrow lens of “I” but through the broader lens of interconnectedness.